Last evening I received this message, pertaining to a post I had made. I most sincerely apologize to any and all who were repulsed by my reporting on a news paper article on this site. I requested the post be deleted, and thank the Moderator for doing so.
“This thread is problematic. There is undoubtedly a sad story behind this unidentified person’s suicide. It is pathethic that this story was brought to the BB. Some of the posts are appalling. The thread is a disservice to the members of the BB and a discredit to the FAOL site. I urge the owner and administrators to remove the thread and would like to see some explanation why that was done.”
Just wanted to be up front with you, whether the thread is pulled or not. If it isn’t, I guess I will have to make another decision."
In all my years here, I’ve never been accused of pathos, being a disservice to the Board, and a discredit to the FAOL site. And then have the Administration called out for not condemning me quickly.
No need to apologize to me. Forgiveness is the greatest medicine. We’re human and make mistakes sometimes. If we were perfect we’d be called by a different name. Don’t you dare go away. It would be a sad day at FAOL and a sad day for me if you did.
I’m not planning on going anywhere, any time soon. It would have been nice, after all the time I’ve been here, to have a message sent to me BEFORE reporting it to the Administration for rebuke. The note I cut and pasted is what was sent to the Admin., then copied to me. Had I known people were so upset by my post, I would have requested the post be removed, sooner rather than later. And, I certainly don’t like the veiled threat in the final line of the message.
Betty, I read the post then chose not to follow up and read more. each of us has the choice to read or not. each of us has the ability not to click on a link. Don’t beat yourself up all of us have done things we wish we hadn’t after we did them. Your years of contribution to this board speak for them selves keep being you, and I will keep reading your posts.
Some people are way to sensitive and have way too much time on their hands. I read the post, wasn’t something I found interesting so I didn’t re-click on it again, that simple. Just like Eric-WD said no one is forced to read anything they don’t want too. If it’s not something you care to read then don’t. Some people are too bored and will complain about anything.
betty is fully capable to defend herself. she’s a fine person and her post here proves that fact. what is wrong about the this thread is for anyone to criticize sensitivity.
I don’t post much, but I’ve read an untold number of Betty Hiner posts over the past few years. The vast bulk of your posts compared to the post in question makes clear that this was at worst an innocent error in judgment, and one that you have tried to correct. I doubt most folks, myself included, could claim to have done better over the years. Thanks for speaking up and taking the heat. I look forward to the next 4338 Betty Hiner posts.
Like some, I read the post and chose not to follow the thread and that is the choice everyone had. I agree with you that the person who sent the message to the Administrator should have notified you first and let you make the decision to delete. If you were a “newbie” to this great site, then I could understand them sending a message to the Administrators, but, you are an asset to this site and a long time member and you deserved to be notified first.
That said, I recommend you treat this as “water off a duck’s back” and just let it go and carry on as you always have.
I still “love” you and look forward to all your posts to this site.
Let it Slide and don’t worry about it. You have given help, advice and encourgement to all on here so when you say “I guess I will have to make another decision.” I and everyone else Hope that doesn’t mean that you’re thinking of leaving us cause that would be bad.
I was thinking about this situation and I think we need to extend a little grace to the person who complained. You never know just what burdens any one person is carrying, and for someone who lost a loved one to the tragedy of suicide, the seemingly mild post could have been more than they could bear. The best way to handle a situation doesn’t always come to mind when your guts are twisted in knots.
I think who ever wrote the note to the admin should run for political office on the west side of my great State of Washington.
You figure that out.
I wasn’t offended by your post Betty, but as others have stated, I wasn’t very interested in it the subject either so as others did I did not read it any further then the first glance. Fairly simple really. Sort of like politics in western Washington.
Betty,
I don’t remeber reading the post, if I did, I can’t remember.
I have read many of your posts in my short time here, and realy enjoyed them.
You hang in there.
Chris
What that person should read, is the first amendment of Article 19 of the United States Constitution since this does happen to be a U.S. site. Good lord if I complained about every offensive story or remark F*X News reported they would be off the air. That’s why I don’t watch that particular media outlet for news. I exercise my right to choose what I watch and read.
I feel bad for the family’s left behind in situations like that, but when one makes a choice like that in public, it’s going to be in the media.
Betty, you should feel privileged that you had the choice to have the thread removed in the first place.
I have 6 wonderful step kids whose father committed suicide. I witnessed the pain they went through on a daily basis for the last 25 years. However, when I started hearing, “You can’t tell me what to do! You’re not my real dad!”, I had to reply, “No, I’m not but I am the closest thing you’ve got. You real dad bailed out on you.”
Some might think this was horribly cruel but it helped them see the truth of the matter. Now, we can be a family and still recognize that they miss and love their dad. They now put the blame where it belongs, on their dad bit understand that it is still OK to grieve for him.
So, if the offende party has been unfortunate eniugh to loose a loved one to suicide, you have my sympathy. However, you need to quit taking your pain out on good folks like Betty and put the blame for how you feel where it belongs.
If I have offended any of you good people, please notice that there are no Constitutional protections against being offended.
Well said! I will also add that had they done the respectful thing and PM’d Betty they would have found out that they had gained a great friend, heck probably still would. I did not get to read the article but my reaction would have been to bend a knee in prayer to the Lord for the loved ones affected by this most selfish act called suicide and not to belittle Betty but rather thank her for showing me someone in need of prayer.
I lost a brother to suicide several years ago and I miss him every day. I did not see your original post but I know you would never post something in bad taste. When I see a post I don’t care for I move on to another and do not revisit the one in question.
Many times I see requests for prayers on the board and I do not reply on the forum because I find it difficult to express my self. I simply stop what I am doing and start praying for the ones in need, and continue to pray for them in the future. In my opnion the person who deemed it offensive should have sent you a pm and relayed their feelings to you. Please keep on keeping on what you are doing on this forum. You are not only a good person, you are also very important to FAOL.
It’s raining here and cold, I’m down here at Mom’s vsisting. Its been a good visit and looks like it’s gonna be a good day. I read both threads, the other and this one, and am glad its all been cleared up. Its alot better when something is just talked about and fixed, rather than to go to War. Betty could have lauched missels, but chose not too… That says alot about a persons character. I would vote for Betty in any election… God Bless and enjoy the day…
