I know better than to ask a ‘regular’ person and not a doctor(although I will) but I think I have been suffering from depression lately.
-Had business problems that we thought we cleared up but some problems still exist.
-Had a child recently go off to college.
-Have a very hard time concentrating on ANYTHING.
-Don’t want to do much of anything and I am (was) a very active person(raced dirt bikes, played golf at a very high level(still do), played softball this summer. But lately I want to come home and just watch TV until it’s time to go to bed.
-Very easily irritated!!
-I’m 51 so ‘the changes’ can be a contributing factor.
I went through some pretty tough times when I was your age. And I went through a period of depression that lasted six months, maybe longer.
Depression is generally a response to loss. It is a natural response. It can also come on when you subconsciously or consciously anticipate a loss. The things you are experiencing certainly indicate that you are in a depressed state.
Difficulty with memory is another indicator. In my case, it had to do with numbers. I’ve always been very good with numbers and at math. When I was depressed, I could not remember numbers. I had to write down phone numbers, for example, whereas I had always been able to just repeat them a couple times and remember them for a long time.
Actually, it was the numbers thing that told me I was coming out of the depression. When I realized that I was remembering numbers again, I knew that I was through it.
Seems to me lots of folks try to deny or demonize depression. Treating symptons with medications. Depression ain’t fun, but it is something that is natural, and there are things to be learned from it if you let it run its course and try to learn from it.
Finally, please don’t think of it as a weakness. Or endless, although, as I recall, it did seem like it would never end. BUT IT DID.
All the best while you deal with what is going on.
I doubt, no I know I don’t have any good answers. I am a bit older than you are and I have similar issues. I have to keep myself active or I end doing just what you say, come home from work and watch the tube.
A few things I do to keep myself going is to keep trying new things. In the last couple of years I took up photography which opened up an almost endless world for me to learn and explore. I have combined my love of fly fishing with my new hobby and both give me reason to get out more often. I also a few years ago got another dog, a 180 lbs. Newfoundland who is demanding and requires me to walk him on a regular basis. I already have a Border collie but she is 14 years old and slowing down like me. The addition of the younger dog did both of our energy levels good. Now, I don’t recommend you get yourself a 180 pound dog, they definitely are not for everybody but a new pup will add some energy to your life. A good friend about the same age got a Springer pup. It has also got him outside much more often.
I guess what I am saying is keep challenging your mind. Try new hobbies. Perhaps raise a new hunting dog. But with all this said if you truly are experiencing depression you must seek professional help and do it sooner not later.
Thanks to all.
I will call my Doctor today and ask him for help.
This is NOT me. It’s been coming for a while as I look back now.
Funny John mentioned numbers. Phone numbers have been an extreme challenge lately and I HATE to deal with numbers. Very frustrating to get a business back in shape and hate to deal with numbers!
I think this started a few years ago. I took up fly fishing then and that surely helped but lately even that is a challenge to me to keep things organized to do.
I have dealt with depression of varying levels for almost 20 years now. I would go see a doctor about it, and consider the possibility of an anti depression medication (mild). it isn’t something that changes the world, but it does smooth out the bumps. (something to consider)
I don’t like to post things of this nature on a forum, but I’m also not a guy who eats around the bush. that being said the following is my experience for whatever it is worth.
that being said it took me many years to get to the bottom of what was causing it, and truly get over it. shrinks helped, a bit, but never really got to the bottom of it. how did I actually overcome this? through the LDS addiction recovery program for a pornography addiction I had battled since I was about 4.
going through the program you go through a personal inventory, and the theory behind it is to see yourself through Gods eyes. this program really worked for me in a way nothing else ever has, and allowed me to go through my life events in a way that I never had before. it got to the true roots of the cause of my situations.
good luck, and I hope you are able to find something that works for you.
BBW I have also had these problems, this year I have spend perhaps two hours fishing, haven’t done anything else to fill in the time either. Thanks for giving me a good push toward the Doctor and a physical etc.
Eric: Glad I could …“help”.
Solo: I know that wasn’t easy for you to write but thanks for the input. You are a good person. I will check that out for anything that can help.
Went to a site about depression and here are the symptoms! Damn near everything I stated or experience!
Constant sadness
Irritability
Hopelessness
Trouble sleeping
Low energy or fatigue
Feeling worthless or guilty for no reason
Significant weight change
Difficulty concentrating
Loss of interest in favorite activities
I’d say I have from that list:
-sadness
-hopelessness
-trouble sleeping !!
-low energy
-severe feeling of worthlessness
-Nope, no weight change
-severe difficulty concentrating
-very much loss of interest in activities. Haven’t even started my dirt bike in 6 months. Rode once or twice in the past year(and that was just around the block). No real rides at all.
Should you need a reason to travel, please come out to VA and I’ll do my best to help you increase your number of fishing hours. That can’t hurt, right?
I had all of above for many years now, theres alot more to it than that in my case, Get to your doc, there are several meds that work , its a matter of finding the right one for you.bottom line , get to the doc, if you don’t like what hes telling you , go to another one till you get the help you need.
wishing you the best,
heinrich
At least get a check up. My dad had many of those symptoms including fatigue, and stopped doing things he’s always done (including car and home maintenence), and ended up with a heart attack and quad bypass. The fatigue and memory problems were from the blockage. After the bypass and healing time, he’s back to normal.
I feel for ya BBW. After looking at the list I think I’m in the same boat with ya… Or pontoon, or canoe, or whatever… Anyways it explains a lot. Hope you start feeling better soon.
BBW,
First off and most importantly, I’m no doctor. Simply gonna relay a personal experience for what it’s worth. I’m just few months from your age. Read a book year ago b/c I felt many of things you do. Had been feeling this way for long time and knew something just wasn’t right. Main feeling was disappointment that I was becoming someone I didn’t like too much. I seemed irritable all the time and difficult to get along with but there were lots of other emotions as well. The book is “The Irritable Male Syndrome”. Am sorry I can’t remember the author’s name. Wife says it’s made me a new person and I certainly feel much better. Book essentially talks about a real or perceived “male menopause”. (I produce less testosterone but my brain still wants to be the big hunter/gatherer. Hence, there’s an internal struggle of not accepting the change, which can manifest itself in ways that are hard to understand or accept.) There’s much more to it than the hormone issue and why the book is worth a read. Voodoo? I don’t know but the book simply gave a perspective and some explanations (and remedies) that made sense to me. Just please don’t ignore how you feel, BBW, or think you can work your self out of it. Am convinced it digs the hole deeper. Find what works for you my friend!
Grassman
Great advice given…especially the part about not being alone…and about the feeling that it will never end OR that things won’t get better…but that both will come to pass; it will get better and end…and finally seeking professional help…that it shows strength not weakness…hope all works out BBW…fly fishing can’t hurt either
