Zim,

I have seen too many friends who used to get wailed on, who were the ones that ended up in trouble, some in jail.
The maybe lucky ones end up in jail, ... the less "lucky" in my circles ended up dead

I can't answer your question directly, ... 'cause the "real" reason that parents did (do) what they do can differ. IMHO if it's "gratuitous" violence, ... I'm not sure it works out well for anyone.

I like your statement:
They instilled in me their values not necessarily with a belt, but by modeling the "right" behavior.
I'm a new parent and the first time I met juniour, he walked in the front door! (he was already 12 years old).

(again) IMHO, ... teaching or leading by example is pretty hard to beat. Respect, dignity, self discipline and self control, ... all values to maintain front and center.

My 0.02$ anyway ...

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Christopher Chin, Jonquiere Quebec
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[This message has been edited by fcch (edited 19 August 2005).]