perfectloop, you are indeed fortunate to have a lady interested, not only in you, but flyfishing too!
My suggestions? Listen to SW Ladyfish. Forget the freu freu ladies rods. Get one to fit where you'll be fishing. If the grip is too big, sand it. Try out lots of different rods. Don't buy the first time out.
What the heck is a "female casting style"?!?! Or "a less forceful cast"?!?! Give me a break! Most of us girls can out fish the guys, and you only need to cast as far as the fish are!! (though I can certainly hold my own in any situation)
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