A lot of good information has already been given. Since you are a visual person have you tried a search for "fly tying" or "fly fishing" under videos in your local library. Even if your county library doesn't have many videos, you can do a search under interlibrary loans and search your whole state library system.
For materials there are specialists like Chris Helm for hair who are real experts and can get you quality materials.
Then there is YouTube. There is a a lot of good and bad stuff there. Look for the good stuff like tying from RaginCraven (Charlie Craven), for example.
More than attending TU of FFF meetings, I strongly urge you to get on the board of TU. As a board member of our local TU chapter, a TU member will get help but a board member will get taken to some local hot spots and get a lot more face time with the best teachers on the board.
Someone that comes to the meeting gets thanks, but someone on the board gets RESPECT. You actually help TU and it is amazing how much help you get back.
Regards,
Silver
"Discovery consists of seeing what everybody has seen and thinking what nobody has thought"..........Szent-Gyorgy