Think of it from a completely different spectrum. He is surviving through something that most of us cannot and will not ever be able to fully comprehend. He is picking himself up from his bootstraps when most would of given up. Admire his tenacity and let him know that he has your admiration. He is making the best of a very bad situation and yet he is humble with his needs and asks for no help. Respect his determination and let him no that you respect him. He is a brother in the scheme of life and you are a good person for caring, let him know that his friendship has value to you. In the end; let him know that your offer is the same as it would be for any of your other friends. Perhaps he is truly more of a character mentor that we can admire as opposed to a charity case that has more than we understand. How many of us would have the strength to do as he does? This man seems to have it worked out and is rebuilding his life. I truly admire and respect people such as the one that you shared with us. Offer help but offer the admiration and respect first.

You have a good heart Jim: I admire and respect that?