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Al
Join the club and forget the insults! I was embarrased by the remark and felt like climbing under a rock with the hellgramites. I'm sure that the majority of the guys would have joined me there...if they had heard.
I've been considering a new philosophy. It's somewhat the reverce of what I've always held. "Go fishin, help with stream improvement and conservation and forget all the rest...especially the kids". We're overdoing it. (Like TM says)
When we were kids some of us learned to fish and it was a slow and painful but wonderful experience. We used sticks and button thread outfits. Some kids (like my best friend) tried it once and packed it in for life. He said that after waiting around for a fish to bite he began to feel stupid, then anger welled up in him so he kicked the coffee can into the river and threw his fishing stick as far out as possible and refused to let his dog fetch it back for him.
Maybe there are a limited number of people who are predisposed to be fishers and trying to boost the numbers is fruitless or even counter productive. Sorta like sex education...the more you educate them the earlier they start their sexcapades. Looking for the answer to that one, "more sex education at an earlier age. Start in the third grade!" (the result of that may be kindergarten sexcapaders)
Are we getting any more sportsmen with all the hulabaloo, schools, seminars etc that we're providing? Maybe not, New York state license sales are lower every year so we pile on more fly fishing schools and seminars! They may be having the very effect we are trying to avoid! Could we be turning them off. They go home and think to themselves "What a crock."
Then again, what do we need any more spostsmen for anyway? The rivers and streams could profit from fewer fishers.
The kids have plenty to do without hitting the river or going afield. There are video games, tousands of canned movies, overly organized team sports...Dang! The poor bastards aren't left to their own devices long enough to develop any self taught skills or any semblance of individuality! And individuality is what they crave! What do you think all that hardware they have in their eyebrows, noses, tongues and elsewhere is for. They're trying to be individuals and fall short of it because they don't know how. And I guess that that is what their modern "lets be friends" educators want and expect of them...some kind of preprogramed robotery.
Yes, they have fields of cannabis and all maner of other evils to lure them away from
the straight and narrow...but maybe...just maybe we wouldn't have to be so concerned about it if they were not so sheep like.
Individuality to them is another ring in their navel! They may need less adult supervision, not more!
Don't get out of the game, Al, hang in there, you Are appreciated.
Bill
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William Fritzgerald,
"Fishcreek said he should used his 12 wt around his a" and Nighthawk added he should have punch the man---that would lead to assault and jail time."
Perhaps, perhaps not. The point being that so many people believe they can say what ever they want with no consequences. It just ain't so McGee.
It seems to be that somewhere in the past 30 years we have forgotten what it is to be a man. It means not to offend and disrespect, and it means to expect consequences if one does.
I would have told him to watch is tone and language with me, and if he used that language again I would hit him.
But that off course that is me, your mileage may vary.........................
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Snipe---delete one of your rants. One of your outlooks on life was bad enough.
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Bill
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W. Fitz.
Which one would you have me delete, William?
They're all tissues of lies mixed with a few truths. Trouble is I don't know how to delete them and If I did I'd have to show my wife and she'd delete them all! Believe it or not, some even enjoy my posts! Hope that I didn't offend anyone ...I was just trying to stir the pot and develop a little regional rivalry. Read it again, I said that it was a new philosophy for me...Maybe I should scrub it, what do you think?
Bill
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Bill....as in snipe...I think the thread he was talking about is the duplication of your thread on page one. Otherwise, I can't see anything wrong with what is being said. A lot mosrt patience has been used than I am capable. I'd have told him what he could do with the organization, the speaker, and any further obligations I had with them. It'd have been dark and crowded for all of them. But that's just me..sweet little me.
Betty
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Trouts don't live in ugly places
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It just struck me wrong at a bad time --- yes there were two the same on the bottom of page one. Sorry--go to where you post and change things and you will see where to delete. Nothing wrong with what you were posting.
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Bill
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Now that you've had a couple of days to let your feelings cool down a bit it might be time to consider whether you wre insulted by the club or by an ignorant jackass who happens to be a member. If the former I would want nothing more to do with them; if the latter then by all means bring it to the attention of the president. Or just avoid said jackass.
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all leaders tangle; mine are just better at it than most. Jim
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Allan
Whatever you decide, but please take this into consideration.
If you leave, the losers are the people you were helping. So if you do leave do not punish the people that were greatful to you for everything you have done for them.
Make yourself available to them, either help start another club. (you still do not have to be an officer) The club you are in looks like it is running people off.
Or just make it known that you are available for the people that appreciate your input.
I know you have helped me and I would hate to see you not in the position to help others that do appreciate your experience.
Just another viewpoint.
I am truly sorry you ran into this crap.
But let me tell you a little story that happened to me.
One day I had a run in with a rude customer. He was really hateful and made me as mad as I can remember ever getting. But I was able to hold my tounge, there were other customers in the store.
After this jerk left a little old lady came to the counter looked at me with the eyes of a grand mom and said to me.
"It really is a shame that you have to go through people like that to get to nice people like me."
I finally retired from that job just because of the jerks that I had to deal with, but after that day they did not get to me as much. It seemed that I would get a great customer for every jerk. I miss the great ones, I can even remember most of their names. But not the jerks.......
Allan your judgement will be the right thing to do. You have cooled down enough not to react. But remember my little old lady.
Harold
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This is John Lively, president of the aforementioned club. I know some of you, and don't know others. I'd like to comment on a couple of things that were said in this thread.
1. What happened at the meeting was unfortunate, unpleasant, and shameful and is not encouraged or tolerated by the club. The club is not 'running people off'.. what club would want that? It is like any other group of 20 or so people.. mostly good apples, a few that need polishing, and the occasional bad one. And from time to time, some people choose to leave for various reasons, while others join. If the club is healthy, it thrives on this, rather than is threatened by it.
2. In my opinion, there were two people who were out of line at the meeting. One as described by tyeflies above, and the other who sparked the incident by exclaiming 'This is bullsh%$' a bit too loudly when yours truly was passing around a funding proposal to be debated later in the meeting.
3. Past and present club officers can be faulted for not having a clear policy on guests and what the expectations are re becoming a member or not are, four years after founding the club. This will be addressed over the next few months.
In summary, a regrettable incident, with blame to go around for all involved, share and share alike. I've no interest in fanning the flames, but felt the other side of the story should be told.
4. On the subject of speakers fees. If a person makes some or all of his/her living via fishing (guiding, tying, writing, lecturing, etc.) then generally they expect to be paid to appear at a club event. If fishing is a hobby then generally speaking they do not expect payment. There are no hard rules, but these are the general guidelines we operate under.
5. People who devote time and energy to provide speakers and events for a club do expect something in return beyond 'thanks that was a good talk'. They expect you to contribute some of your time to help realize the goals of the club. Otherwise, why go to all the trouble? The club of course ought to make its mission and goals clear from the outset as well, so the 'implicit contract' is clear.
Thanks for hearing me out.
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To all who bothered to read this thread and express a comment or opinion,
After this situation reared its ugly head and after several days of reflection, I decided to inform the membership of what transpired and simply divorce myself from any official ties to the organization. Last night at a weekly public tying activity (not FFF specific) I did that.
I won't comment on what John said in his post above. Whatever he perceives the concerns to be, he and the membership will deal, or not deal, with them.
Allan