Re: The decision to let her die
Hey Jerry,
The last time we talked was on the deck of the Wyandotte Inn overlooking the AuSable River. That was a happier time with a glass of "shine" to pass the evening. I'm sorry to hear of your Mom's condition and of the necessity of your decision in dealing with it. You seem to have an insight as to how Mom would have handled it were she able . Go with it without any second thoughts or regrets. My prayers are with you and yours.
Mark
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Originally Posted by Dot Man
I ask again why is it OK to do nothing and let her lay there for days vs. doing something to end her life peacefully?
Jerry
Jerry,
Death and dying is such an emotional and personal experience for those of us who must make difficult decisions for our loved ones. I have been in your shoes with my Father and my Mother-in-law, and have asked the same question that you pose. Unfortunately, people who are well-meaning (or at least they claim to be well-meaning) get laws passed that don't allow any flexibility for individual situations, and the rest of us are at the mercy (?) of medical caregivers whose hands are tied to these laws. I have many opinions on this subject, but this is not the place to aire them.
My prayers are with you, your Mom and your family during this difficult time.
Joe
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Jerry,
Our Prayers and Thoughts are there for You and Yours.
We both have been there in the past few years We know what you are going through.
Go with God My Friend.
Bill and Jean
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Jerry,
My heart goes out to you. I know the pain you feel, having been through a similar situation. It hurts like no other hurt. It is beyond you to make it different. The choice is one that makes no sense, yet you must choose. Please take care. You are in my thoughts.
jed
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Good luck mate, I understand your dilemma. I can only say that the "starvation" is more a legal terminology in that it sounds as if she will be quite comfortable with morphine which will also most likely induce respiratory depression and death. Sorry, but it is as close as the legal ethicists allow.
I am trying just to state practice facts and not an opinion.
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Jerry,
You are all in our prayers as well. It sounds like your Mom is leaving us in the same way my Sister in Law did on June 3rd...just 2 weeks ago. If you need to talk or need anything, you know I'm just a call away.
God Bless,
Mike
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Jerry,
I too can empathise. A close friend of the family/like a second mom to me had Parkinsons, the "family" choose to remove "the tube". Although separated by nearly 2000 miles, I was there. I still mourn her loss. Hopefully you can find comfort in the support offered here. Wish I could do more. Live her life through yours.
Mike K.
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Hi,
I'm sorry to hear of the difficult situation you and your family are having to go through. Take what comfort you can from knowing that you are doing what you believe to be the right thing. Nobody can ask anything more from another person. I wish you and your family all the comfort that you can find. Take care.
- Jeff
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Jerry, very similar situian with my Dad in 1996, had to ask the Dr. what the humane thing was to do for my Dad. The Dr. could not legally tell us. A nurse told us to let him go, we did. My prayers are with you and your family.
Tim
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Jerry, we have recently discontinued any but palliative treatments for my mother. In her more lucid moments she has (we think) confirmed the correctness of this decision. I know that dad would love to change his mind; keeping on like this is tearing him apart. Somehow in fifty-seven years of loving her he is finding the strength to carry on. He has said to me that he would lie down beside her and go with her if he could. As long as you are acting out of love you will do the right thing